dodging vibes that i don’t need
you know what’s great? being a girl who likes girls. you know why? girls are the best. girl clothes girl smells. girl smiles. girl eyes. girl voices. girl laughs. girl sleepy voices. girl hands. girl hair. girl whispers. girl kisses. girl hugs. holding hands with girls. talking to girls. girls singing. girls dancing. girls giggling. girl hair. girls are the greatest and i love girls so much
Why is love at first sight okay for straight people but for lesbians it’s “u-hauling”? Why do straight people get to have passionate love stories but for us it’s just “the lesbian urge to merge”? Why are our relationships doomed to be too intense to last? Why do we suffer “lesbian bed death” but straight people’s relationships simply mature? Why do we have to question every single thing we do as a couple because we aren’t allowed to love with the same validity and purity that straight people are given?
Bi girls have the same capacity to love girls as lesbians.
I gained a bunch of followers today but then I posted this and lost them. Don’t underestimate how much bi girls can love women. I have more crushes on girls than there are kernels on a corn.
Dudes will make eye contact with a woman and be like “she wants to fuck me!” Meanwhile lesbians will be like “so I’m married to this girl and every morning she writes me a poem and she took me to this secluded mountain lodge and made sweet love to me by candle light. Do you think she likes me?”
god i wish lesbians in mainstream media werent so sexualized. like… wheres my dorky highschool gfs… wheres my uptight office lesbian and sloppy sweatpants lesbian who shows office lesbian the joys of eating raw cookie dough at 4am… wheres my rich and famous lesbian who falls in love with shy bookish lesbian… wheres my waitress gfs who work at competing restaurants… wheres my mutual pinning neighbor lesbians who barge into each-others’ houses uninvited… like not every sapphic couple is two Sexy Women With A Forbidden Passion… give me my fun and sweet sitcom lesbians
Not all lesbians are thin white girls who wear Calvin Klein underwear and go camping every weekend. Lesbians are brown girls in salwar kameezes and bindis and black girls with dreadlocks and afros and Muslim girls in hijabs and Jewish girls in tznius, lesbians are fat girls and 5X+ girls and girls with big bones and girls who are 6 feet tall, lesbians are poor girls on welfare and girls getting food stamps and homeless girls and girls working multiple minimum wage jobs, lesbians are girls with depression and anxiety and girls with personality disorders and psychosis and girls in the hospital and girls who are suicidal, lesbians are girls with disabilities and girls in wheelchairs and girls with chronic pain and girls who are blind and deaf and girls who are in recovery and girls who can’t recover, lesbians are girls who are 5 years old and girls who are 85 years old and girls who have known their whole life and girls who just found out, lesbians are girls from literally all walks of life and all cultures and all religions and our stories are so unique and so vast and to reduce us to only a small group of girls who most of us aren’t is disingenuous of who we all are as a whole.
honestly fuck people that tell femme lesbians they’re “too pretty to be lesbians” or because they dress feminine it’s attracting men and we should stop dressing that way. femme lesbians or lesbians in general will never ever dress for men.
I feel like it’s so much easier for lesbians to call ourselves gay or to say “I’m gay” than it is to say “I’m a lesbian” or refer ourselves as lesbians. And I don’t mean that gay can’t be or isn’t a synonym for lesbian and I don’t mean that lesbians should never use the word gay to describe themselves, but I mean more in the sense that lesbians rarely self-identify with the term “lesbian” without difficulty, or use it when coming out to others or even ourselves.
The word “lesbian” is thrown around with so much hate and disgust that the first time most of us ever hear it used is when it’s being used as an insult. We are told that being a lesbian is grown up thing, that’s it’s inappropriate for kids, or something the children would never understand. We can’t even google “lesbian anything” without porn being the first thing that comes up. “Lesbian” becomes a word that is so disconnected from our experiences with ourselves, our feelings, and our relationships, or we otherwise internalize the lie that we are this bad thing that everyone is always talking about. Gay is definitely used similarly in those respects, but it at least allows us to put some distance between our identity and the lesbophobia that is constantly behind it.
Damn. Yes.
honestly fuck people that tell femme lesbians they’re “too pretty to be lesbians” or because they dress feminine it’s attracting men and we should stop dressing that way. femme lesbians or lesbians in general will never ever dress for men.
Not all lesbians are thin white girls who wear Calvin Klein underwear and go camping every weekend. Lesbians are brown girls in salwar kameezes and bindis and black girls with dreadlocks and afros and Muslim girls in hijabs and Jewish girls in tznius, lesbians are fat girls and 5X+ girls and girls with big bones and girls who are 6 feet tall, lesbians are poor girls on welfare and girls getting food stamps and homeless girls and girls working multiple minimum wage jobs, lesbians are girls with depression and anxiety and girls with personality disorders and psychosis and girls in the hospital and girls who are suicidal, lesbians are girls with disabilities and girls in wheelchairs and girls with chronic pain and girls who are blind and deaf and girls who are in recovery and girls who can’t recover, lesbians are girls who are 5 years old and girls who are 85 years old and girls who have known their whole life and girls who just found out, lesbians are girls from literally all walks of life and all cultures and all religions and our stories are so unique and so vast and to reduce us to only a small group of girls who most of us aren’t is disingenuous of who we all are as a whole.
